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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2016 13:41:00 GMT
I think there is one thing that can be done to make this server a happier respected place for everyone again. And that is by starting up a server email address where players when they have the chance to report something, can unanimously do this without putting their own names in the reports on the forums. Like usual, we could then tell about the report and add screenshots along with it. I'm a European player and I'm online when most or all moderators are offline. And if rules were followed, there would be no problem. But lately I see, the instant the last mod goes offline, some steve comes online and starts stirring up the chat to begin with. I could have made numerous reports already, but what I don't want is my name on the reports section of the forum all the time addressing all the irregularities that are following up all the time after the mods are gone. I also feel that the moderators may be more strict in maintaining the rules. There should be no second or third warning, an instant mute or temporary ban gives a sign to the players involved,: this far and no further. There should be no difference between new players and older players, everyone is treated the same. I think everyone knows how to be respectful to one another, but sometimes I get the feeling, some players are just pushing it how far they can go. An immediate response to that from a moderator would help a great deal. This morning, after Lefik left, there was again one fellow regular rank that was starting to try to get the chat in the whole wrong direction. I'm not going to say what it was about, but I was secretly hoping a mod would come online to not get things go out of hand. And glad fully, it didn't, because most players online today, didn't respond to the negative provocative remarks that person was saying. I often feel helpless when something bad happens in chat and no mods are online, but I feel powerless to do anything at that time and getting into the conversation would make things worse. So what I can do, is report to you a lot more of any irregularities regarding a clean chat, but give me something to send it to unanimously. I also would like to thank all the moderators that have given the server a very warm Christmas feeling. Sometimes I would not like to be in their shoes when something happens, Then I always wonder, what should I do when I was a mod
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Post by inspector3000 on Jan 13, 2017 17:40:20 GMT
I must say that I agree with this. It does appear that the server is becoming less and less friendly. The other thread, I must note, talked about how the server in 1.8 was all about community and groups of friends. But since 1.10, heck even 1.9, there hasn't been as much friendliness. Things have happened, and a few times, I was at the center of it, and it's been terrible. As most people are doing, I'm not naming names, but collectively, everyone needs to get along. 😕😕😕😕😕😕😕😕😕😧
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Post by Wolf lover on Jul 15, 2017 7:02:59 GMT
I haven't been here long, but I've noticed the same thing. I appreciate you posting this, especially considering the possible backlash. I will try my best to ensure that others are referred to this post and that bullying of specific players ceases. . This is happening!?!i am new to this server but I love it and have already donated! I guess my love for this server has made me blind to its small flaws xD
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Post by Wolf lover on Jul 15, 2017 7:08:12 GMT
It has gotten to be not so friendly in the few months I've been here. I've stepped into conversations several times when I thought things were going overboard. There are a couple people I just feel protective over, just from a mom standpoint. Some of the convos I've seen were downright nasty, and that is not ok. This whole thing some people have going on is not cool. There are a few players that I would just dump if I were the owner, but I'm not. So they stay. And they pick on people mercilessly. I've even been in the receiving end of it a few times. And it's not cool. And tonight I found out that we are losing some valuable players due to the bullying, and that's not cool either. And my guess is, the toxic ones don't even read these forums, so we are stuck with trying to correct this behavior ingame. Personally, I would like to see the mods take more of a proactive role in making this a more friendly server again. When we see something that isn't right, don't join in; make it stop. For example a few days ago, a friend of mine was being teased nonstop about whatever the bully was teasing them about. I said something, and then the mob turned on me, then went back to my friend. It eventually stopped but I don't think it made my friend feel very good, and I hated that there wasn't much I could do for them, and I hated that no one else stood up for my friend either, at least not when I was watching the chat. Maybe someone said something privately. And I believe it was last night when someone said something about a player being a candidate for mod. And I said something. And actually had to explain why it was that I said something. Like, in what world is it OK to just insult someone? Donald Trump can do it, so why can't I? No. Not cool. That's grade school stuff. We are better than that. And we have to make others be better than that because we deserve better than that. Our server deserves better than that. No one is going to want to stay if we continue to allow the toxic, rude, unruly bullies to dominate the server the way they have been the last few months. Chrissy keep it up! You have made it his server a better place every day bit by bit
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Post by XARXU on Aug 14, 2017 14:27:56 GMT
I hope I can post in this old thread, because I believe this is an ongoing problem on the internet in general, not just Minecraft. It's not okay to haze/bully others. I don't care the circumstances, while it's okay to tell someone if they do something uncool or bad (if it's close to when it happened), but not to keep bringing it up, or to bully the person. This is the internet, meaning there's a virtually 100% chance you don't know the circumstances behind that person's actions, and/or why they are disliked or unpopular. If you want to correct negative behavior, use constructive criticism, but keep it to around the time of the incident, and don't keep bringing it up afterwards. Sometimes, even the best of us goof, or we do something in anger that paints us in a negative light, but that doesn't mean we are bad people. Emotionally- and psychologically-speaking, hazing someone because they did something undesirable, is like a bunch of adults beating up a toddler for accidently dropping a can in the grocery store. Maybe you can't prove it's an accident, maybe you don't even agree that it WAS an accident, but calm the heck down, back off, and just go about your life. Harping on someone else's poor behavior or mistakes isn't going to suddenly make the rest of us any less fallible, so it's better to just start off being gentle towards people who are making honest mistakes (even if it seems like one's own idea of 'common sense' would avoid said mistakes), rather than creating a precedent of mistreating people when they err, then whining and getting toxic when that precedent extends back to you when you are facing rough times.
A little empathy goes a long way, and to those who think others should 'grow thicker skin': I'm sorry you were hurt in your life, that the person(s) who hurt you lacked the empathy and consideration to take your feelings into account, and left you feeling like the world is garbage, but that does not make it okay to send that hurt out to others. From another perspective, only thing stopping some people from making your life hell when you screw up, is you being nice to others when they make mistakes or screw up. If you're hard on others, people won't hesitate to be hard on you. By being kind to others, you're being kind to yourself, and I don't care how much like an After-School Special this sounds!
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Post by BlingCake on Aug 15, 2017 15:38:50 GMT
Adding on (^). About a year ago I had to move schools. Why? Because I gave up. I was bullied, harrassed, any word you can think of, it happened to me. I was a naive little puppy dog, constantly begging the popular kids for attention, constantly suffering pain because those "popular kids" were the exact same kids that bullied me day after day, month after month. I was an outcast. First, it started with the fact that I couldnt play sports well. Harrassed because I couldnt make a 3-pointer in basketball. Laughed at because I was last in the races. I only remember afternoons after afternoons spent practicing, hoping for results, all through tears and a little voice in the back of my head laughing at my pathetic efforts. But it didnt stop there. I was a nerdish kid. Instead of football games I watched crime investigations because I found it intersting. I wore plain Vans, and didnt own a single pair of Nike brand shoes. My jeans all had rips and stains. My shirts were all button down, all clean and crisp. Some even went so far as to make fun of my freckles. The little friends I had left, abandoned me after hearing rumors about me. "Did you hear that [insert name here] eats dead rats for lunch because his family is so poor?" "---'s house is a giant cardboard box! They even have to share it with the local bugs!" It hurt. When you are bullied, you are broken, piece by piece. Never to be put back together right. With some people, it molds them into a better person. Not for me. My instinct is to fight. And I did. I tried to ignore it. When people got physical, I gave it right back. I remember a specific moment, when I completely flipped. I was past my point of nice. I was in the territory of hell. I was playing basketball, when a group of guys decided to give me a good shoving. I was pushed to the ground. When I stood up, I was MAD. Everyone knew this and backed up. One of them got the courage to walk up form behind and shove me again. I didnt fall. I turned around, I had never punched anybody that fast before in my life, and punched him right in the face. I ran off, then the gym teacher found me, and took me to the principal for my punishment. Me, because I punched. Me, the outcast punished for evening the score. From this point in time, I understand their perspective, but then I thought it was unjust. It eventually got so bad that I asked my parents to move. My point is, bullying people is the worst thing you can ever do. Each person is a castle. And just because you have the cannons to destroy it, doesnt mean you should. It would gain you nothing, and in some cases even break the person completely, both physically and mentally. Especially on the Internet. When you dont even have a faint clue what the person is like, what experiences they have had in their life, it can go worse than breaking the person. It can turn suicidal. I wish there were more people in the world who understood, what it means to be kind, to everyone. People make fun of kids with dsiabilities. I say, they are blessings. My best friend at my new school has the Down Syndrome. He is one of the kindest people I know, even if he cant sometimes control himself. So, to everyone that may read this now, in the future, or otherwise, be kind. One kind word, can help a person. A kind gesture, will lift them of their stool of sadness. Im not saying be friends with everybody. Of course there will be people you dont like. Im just saying be kind to everybody.
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Post by nateost on Aug 18, 2017 20:40:21 GMT
Good post. Way to get the point across and show what it really means or does.
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